The "my boyfriend" line

So first off anyone that actually read my last entry, sorry I was just bored and hadn’t written in months and had nothing else to say. It was pretty boring and lame but now I think I actually have something of interest to say.

Well I know that by writing a blog I am pretty much agreeing to allow anyone that wants to read my opinions which is fine. The thing is my rant tonight is loosely based on some current interactions with some people I know but my issues with this topic have always been there I think the wound has just been recently reopened if you will. So pretty much any woman that reads this will have her own issues with me about my opinions and honestly I don’t care. I wouldn’t be afraid to lay this stuff out in person anyway.

OK so it’s kind of simple. When women feel this urge and obligation to passively let guys know that they are either in a relationship or have a boyfriend I just about lose it. It really is all I can do to hold myself back from making some kind of nasty “we don’t care statement”. See here is the deal I take a lot of credit for this observation but Seinfeld did make a reference to it as well in an episode. He explains how you got to love how women just have to “slip it right in there” referring to women mentioning how they have a boyfriend. George later goes on to say how they (women) act like it is “just all a part of the conversation.”

There really is no good time to hear about your upcoming weekend date, or how you had this great time hiking this weekend, or how you kind of have a boyfriend now and it’s easier to do things around your house with two people, blah, blah, blah.

It really baffles me that women probably 90% of the time have to find a way to talk about their boyfriends, dates, relationships, how happy they are with this guy. And on the flip side guys hardly ever talk about their girlfriends and even their wives for that matter. I mean heck I’ve dated girls that not even my friends or family even know about or if they do it’s like months into the whole thing. But here is the big kicker. Guys that don’t talk about their relationships are accused of “being ashamed of me”, or “you’re not proud to be with me” and even “this just means you just don’t really like me”. For the most part none of those statements are every true, but good luck convincing the female gender of that.

See guys just don’t feel this obligation to be what I call passive and just find a way to throw in the fact they are in a relationship. Or find a way to talk about just how great their girlfriend is and contribute all the little stories about their “wonderful” dates and whatnot. It’s not because we don’t care about the women we are with we just don’t want to cast off the same feeling we get when we hear a woman drop the “my boyfriend” blah, blah, blah line.

My opinion is that when a girl drops the b/f line I just more or less like her a lot less. Even if she’s attractive I lump the personality stuff in there and it just brings that attraction down. If anything I actually get somewhat heated about it, but on the inside. Honestly don’t flatter yourself. Guys aren’t lining up to date you. Oh and girls out there that use the excuse that they only do this because they don’t want guys hitting on them, I don’t buy it. There are easier ways to get the message across. Just be literal and straight up about your status. JUST DON’T’ BE PASSIVE, I HATE THAT, WE HATE THAT!!